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Wednesday, November 26, 2025

The Courage to Begin Again


Some stories don’t begin with the business you build; they begin with the life that shaped you.


For the three of us, my brother, my sister and me, our story started on the estates long before we ever understood the weight our parents carried.


Dad began working at sixteen. He lost his own father early in life, and that loss changed the course of everything that came after. Responsibility arrived long before youth had a chance to settle, and earning became a necessity rather than a choice.


Mum grew up in Badulla, protected and cared for, almost cocooned. Marriage took her into a very different reality, one ruled by hard work, reinvention and the relentless responsibility of raising three children with more determination than resources.


When we moved to Colombo, everything changed.


Life tightened.

Cash thinned.

The world demanded more than they were prepared for.


But they found a way.

Every single time.


Dad built his life in production, shaped by discipline, necessity and the quiet strength of someone who had been carrying the world far longer than most.

Mum carved her space in beauty, with gentleness, instinct and a grace that softened the rough edges of life.


Two completely different worlds, but both rooted in grit and a quiet kind of love that shows up before sunrise and long after exhaustion settles in.


They worked late nights, early mornings and every moment in between, not to give us luxury but to give us enough. Enough to stand, enough to dream, enough to have a life that stretched wider than theirs did.


They both passed nine years ago. Mum in her early sixties, Dad in his late sixties. Cancer took them far earlier than we ever imagined. And yet, their resilience, their reinvention and their quiet courage live in each of us.


We each carried it forward in our own way.

My brother grew into a storyteller, someone who sees the world through narrative, creativity and perspective.

I stepped into technology, into data, strategy and transformation, with creative spurts woven in along the way.

And my sister, who began her journey in production like Dad, slowly found her way into beauty, echoing the gentler parts of Mum.


And that is where Zoya enters our story.


Not as a business.

Not as a salon.

But as my sister’s renewal.


After three decades of running at full speed in apparel, the deadlines, the pressure, the constant intensity, she did something most people only talk about.


She stopped.

She breathed.

And she chose to build something softer.


Zoya is her way of reclaiming a life that once belonged to noise and urgency.

It is the merging of everything she has lived. Dad’s discipline, Mum’s instinct for beauty and her own quiet courage to begin again.


For me, watching her build this place feels like watching a circle complete itself. A gentler continuation of what our parents began, but with the softness they never had time to enjoy.


Zoya is her renewed purpose.

And a reminder to every woman that it is never too late to rewrite your own story, to create a life that finally holds you instead of draining you.


Sometimes renewal does not arrive with fanfare.

Sometimes it comes as a quiet room, a new beginning, a softer chapter.

Sometimes it comes as a reminder that the story you inherited can still evolve into the story you choose.


And to Nangie, congratulations.

You have built something beautiful, intentional and deeply meaningful.

I am so proud of you, not just for creating Zoya but for choosing yourself, for beginning again and for showing all of us what quiet courage really looks like.

Sunday, November 23, 2025

Grief ~ The Long Walk Back to Yourself


There are moments in life where the ground shifts quietly, and moments where it splits clean open. Losing both my parents within ten days, nine years ago now, felt like the latter. Even though I had braced myself for the day, watching two people I loved battle cancer, nothing prepared me for how grief actually lands in the body.


It wasn’t the dramatic kind you see in films. It was silent. Cold. A shock that sat under my skin. A sharp, stinging sensation that I still don’t have the words for, the kind that drops you to a place so low you begin to wonder if you’ll ever find your way out again.


I’ve known heartbreak. The slow burn of separation. The ache of relationships ending. But grief… grief is a different creature. It doesn’t just break your heart; it rearranges your insides. It changes the way you hold your breath, the way you move through rooms, the way you look at time. It takes the world you once knew and tilts it by a few degrees, just enough that nothing ever sits in the same place again.


Time itself becomes strange. You keep moving ~ working, loving, functioning ~ but a part of you stays suspended in a moment that no longer exists. And people say things like “time heals,” but what they don’t tell you is that time doesn’t heal for you. It heals with you. Slowly. On the days you least expect it.


Over the years, I’ve realised something: grief isn’t an event. It’s a process. A ritual. A quiet, ongoing conversation between who you were and who you’re becoming.


Some days, you’re pulled back into the shadows without warning, a sound, a scent, a song. Some days, you feel surprisingly steady, like the world is letting you breathe again. And some days, you catch yourself laughing and feel guilty for it, as if joy is a betrayal.


But there’s I’ve learned, gently, over time…


Grief is the clearest proof that love was real.


Its weight can crush you, yes. But its presence also reminds you that you were loved deeply enough to mourn, and brave enough to keep living with the emptiness that love left behind.


And strangely, there’s beauty in that.


Grief actually forces you to look inward, to peel back layers you’ve carried for years, to understand your own resilience, to meet parts of yourself that only emerge in darkness. It makes you soften in places you once hardened, and strengthen in places you once collapsed.


It teaches you that life doesn’t return to “normal.”

It moves you toward a new normal, one built with more awareness, more gratitude, more gentleness with yourself and others.


I’m not fully recovered from losing my parents, and maybe I never will be. Maybe the point isn’t recovery at all. Maybe the point is learning to walk with the loss without letting it define every step.


Grief, when you let it, becomes a compass.

It teaches you what matters.

It teaches you who matters.

It teaches you how short and fragile this entire journey really is.


And somewhere in that understanding, in that soft surrender, you begin to find hope again. Not the loud, triumphant kind. The quiet kind. The kind that whispers:


You’re still here.

You’re still moving.

You’re still becoming.


If you’re grieving, or carrying a loss that feels too heavy to put into words, I want you to know, you’re not broken. You’re human. And the world needs your kind of heart, the one that has known darkness and still chooses to look for light.

Wednesday, November 5, 2025

The Scars We Carry

We walk into love

carrying soft and broken pieces,

hoping someone will hold them

without turning away.


The ghosts stay close,

waiting for a familiar ache

to let them in again.


We call it healing,

but some wounds

just learn how to breathe.


I’m not bitter.

But I am marked.

A quiet flinch

when kindness comes too close.

A stillness

where trust used to live.


Love feels different now 

too many choices,

too little depth.

We touch,

we run,

we pretend it doesn’t sting.


Scars do not fade.

They soften.

They whisper.

They remind us

we survived.

Saturday, November 1, 2025

Dadda

In a world of cruel intentions

and endless noise,

you were the calm 

the one soul who drowned out the ugly,

standing firm beside me,

no matter what.


I remember my first heartbreak,

my first real adult talk,

and every conversation after 

our bond,

quiet, steady,

the kind others envied but few understood.


From rugby games to F1,

hands deep under a car hood,

or fixing a tap together 

those were our moments,

ordinary yet everything.


But the most precious bond of all

was with my son 

your pride, your light,

the joy that made us both whole.


I may not see you,

but I feel you 

in the soft breeze,

the first burst of sunlight,

and that quiet strength within me

that still sounds like your voice.


Dadda,

each memory I fiercely guard,

as you once guarded me.

Each conversation replays

like it was only yesterday.


And I know today,

there’s a beer and a good laugh

somewhere up in heaven 

because love like yours

never really leaves.