Aren't break ups a bugger? its all the more hard when you are living in a tiny island where everyone knows everyone and you are eventually sure to bump into your favourite or not so favourite EX. Whatever the circumstances were it gives you that all so familiar feeling of momentary stress. The common myth is that time heals and makes you forget just about anything, then why do many of us struggle with 'moving on'?
The biggest obstacle to 'moving on' starts with YOU. yes, YOU, the only person who can let you 'move on' or wallow in your sorry circumstances is YOU. Believe me i know this to be true, i had the worst possible break up years ago, and for many years i wallowed, not just in self pity but in self destruction. It was all my own doing, i can blame circumstances, i can blame people but the bottom line is that i let it happen, over and over again i made the choice to be in the place i was. UNTIL four years ago, when i made the decision enough was enough - if i don;t care about ME really, will anyone else give a damn?
I know its hard, i have cried buckets. I know there's no worse feeling in the world, than the feeling of rejection or loneliness. But have you stopped to look around you and see just how lucky you are to be alive? to have the opportunity to change your circumstances? YES, you heard me right, you can change your circumstances! when you do, the dark cloud will sail away, the heaviness in your heart will lighten and you will actually see the rainbow in your heart that gives you hope to live again.
If you truly want to move on, take that first step into the light and believe me everyday will give you a new reason to smile.
